Our lives can be either enhanced or restricted by the stories we
tell ourselves. A single, isolated event that produced feelings of
intimidation or fear can alter a person's story, casting him or her into
the role of victim, a role in which they live their life believing they
are small, afraid and weak. A whole sense of identity can be based on
such negative experiences. But it really doesn't need to be this way. We
can change our stories, and we can do this at any stage we choose.
You are the author of your life.
Make a decision about how you want to progress with your life: who do
you want to become from now on. When things are looking too formidable
and daunting, take another look at the situation and at your personal
script. See it from another perspective. Remember to acknowledge your
accomplishments, your talents and your gifts. Write a list
of the times when you have pushed through in spite of fear or anxiety,
times when you acted courageously or in a more confident manner than
usual. Is there a pattern? What can you learn from these experiences
that you can apply going forward?
In your present circumstance,
see yourself now as a person who is doing something (or contemplating
doing something) that scares not only you, but possibly other people, as
well. Maybe you'll want to overcome your fear of public speaking by
joining a group of like-minded people in Toastmasters International, or
be really brave and challenge your fear of heights by skydiving or bungy
jumping. How about
something a little less challenging to begin with? Learning to cook or
ride a unicycle? You get the idea.
No matter the roadblocks, the
setbacks, or the anxiety, praise yourself. You are ahead of the rest of
the crowd who are not yet willing to try. Consider the worst case
scenario, the one where you crash and burn and fail in every possible
way. How bad is that, really? What is the positive that might come from
that experience? Ask yourself to think of three or four
positive things that you might get from such a worst case scenario that
will help you going forward. Obstacles are there for you to make yourselves strong and talented. Never give up.. Tell yourselves a New great story..
Author: Peterfield
Website: Peter Field Hypnotherapy
Website: Peter Field Hypnotherapy