When you see your life as less valuable during its single periods and yourself as less of a person – you actually block the truly great relationships and great matching partners from entering your life.
Waiting for somebody to give us what we need and want from life takes away another important aspect which is an essential part of feeling good about ourselves: the power and control over our own lives. If we can’t be complete until we share our life with someone, then our happiness depends on factors that are beyond our control – we are at the mercy of chance or luck and all we can do is sit, wait, hope and pray that they will find us worthy of love and connection. And that’s not a great place to be in.
Luckily, we don’t have to live like that. Life is what you make of it. If you want to continue feeling miserable because you don’t have a partner, so be it. But you’re the one making that choice. And you have the power to choose the opposite: turn your attention to all the ways you can make your life happier and more fulfilled, connect with friends and family on a deeper level, create joyful and fun moments, make your life a celebration of your strengths, gifts and talents, and of your ability to love and be loved.
Love is something we’re all capable of giving and receiving in heaps and bounds, and we don’t need a romantic partner to start doing it right here, right now, with all the people we already have in our lives, starting from your own self. Yes, you can feel loved by the person in the mirror, and that’s not a bad way to start practicing love either: it’s actually the right way.
The best way to start walking on the path of love is learning and discovering more ways to truly love and accept yourself . And the more you walk this path, the less pressure you’ll feel to find someone to love you. And – surprisingly so – the more you walk it, the more loving, amazing, caring partners will want to join in and share their lives with you.
Author and Credits: Petra Kreatschman