Thoughts:
Thoughts are those knee-jerk reactions, we have in a given situation. They are not pre-meditated but instantly pop into our head in a particular situation. Example: You get cut off in traffic. Your automatic thought might be “What a jerk; that was dangerous!” Sometimes these are referred to as cognitions.
Thoughts are those knee-jerk reactions, we have in a given situation. They are not pre-meditated but instantly pop into our head in a particular situation. Example: You get cut off in traffic. Your automatic thought might be “What a jerk; that was dangerous!” Sometimes these are referred to as cognitions.
Note that, cognition in simple terms is - thinking, and in a finite sense, it is the ability of the brain to process, store, retrieve and retain information.
Our thoughts and feelings influence our behavior.
Feelings:
Feelings convey to the listener our emotional and/or physical states. That means there are basically two types of feelings: Physical and Mental.
Physical: “I feel cold.” (referred to as sensations)
Mental: “I feel happy.” (referred to as emotions)
In simple terms: Feelings = Sensations(physical) + Emotions(mental)
Like traffic lights feelings tell us when to stop, when to yield, and when to go. Our feelings give us directions and warnings. If we don't heed our feelings, we miss out on vital information. Ignoring our feelings is like driving without paying attention to traffic lights and signs. Many of us live this way, without accessing our feelings. How do we do it? We rely on our thoughts. Although we may be very intelligent, with highly developed mental skills, when our minds are cut off from our feelings, our thoughts can become a liability.
Without crucial information from your feelings, your thoughts can mislead you. For example, you may feel physically hungry but not eat because you think you are fat or think you have to wait until noon. So you end up depriving yourself of nutrition when you actually need it.
Below are some examples of Physical and Mental Feelings:
Physical (termed as Sensations):
1. Tired (sleepy, exhausted)
2. Energetic (hyper, restless)
3. Sick (achy, feverish)
4. Full (satisfied, stuffed)
5. Hungry (craving, starving)
6. Pained (sore, injured)
7. Sensual, longing
Mental (termed as Emotions):
1. Happy (peaceful, joyous, excited)
2. Sad (grieving, disappointed)
3. Angry (mad, frustrated, annoyed
4. Ashamed (embarrassed, uncomfortable)
5. Proud (strong, righteous)
6. Afraid (nervous, anxious, terrified)
7. Loved (appreciated, cherished)
8. Loving (compassionate, accepting)
9. Hurt (wronged, victimized)
10. Lonely (empty, isolated)
11. Bored (indifferent, apathetic)
In order to be fully understood when discussing a conflict, especially
when talking to our parents, friends, spouses, etc., the listener needs
to know the speaker's thoughts and feelings. Therefore, feelings and
thoughts need to be expressed in different ways.
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