Everyone has fears. Everyone..And this is true. The fears and problems you have are not unique to you.
We all have them, usually secretly, oftentimes even hidden from ourselves. We think we’re alone in our fears, but we’re not. We all share them, a common thread that connects us as humans.
We think we’re worse than others in our failures, but we’re not. Everyone has the same failures, everyone is ashamed of them, no one can avoid them. They are a part of who we are as human beings. And not wanting these failures to be a part of us, is also human.
Everyone else has the same fears you have: fears of failure, of embarrassment, of uncertainty, of discomfort.
Fear of not being good enough.
Everyone else has the same failures you have: procrastination, selfishness, jealousy, insecurity, not being happy with ourselves, not being disciplined, being afraid and shying away from the difficult and terrifying.
You are not alone.
You are not worse. You are human. And in your failures and fears and weaknesses, you are connected to me, to everyone else on this planet.
We all have them, usually secretly, oftentimes even hidden from ourselves. We think we’re alone in our fears, but we’re not. We all share them, a common thread that connects us as humans.
We think we’re worse than others in our failures, but we’re not. Everyone has the same failures, everyone is ashamed of them, no one can avoid them. They are a part of who we are as human beings. And not wanting these failures to be a part of us, is also human.
Everyone else has the same fears you have: fears of failure, of embarrassment, of uncertainty, of discomfort.
Fear of not being good enough.
Everyone else has the same failures you have: procrastination, selfishness, jealousy, insecurity, not being happy with ourselves, not being disciplined, being afraid and shying away from the difficult and terrifying.
You are not alone.
You are not worse. You are human. And in your failures and fears and weaknesses, you are connected to me, to everyone else on this planet.
We all suffer, every day: worry, procrastination, anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, irritated, angry, frustrated, wishing things were different, comparing ourselves to others, worried we’re missing out, wishing other people would be different, feeling offended, loneliness, fear of failure, not wanting to do something, wishing we had less fat or bigger muscles, angry at being controlled, wanting to find the perfect someone, wishing our partner was more perfect, stressed about finances, not wanting to think about problems, not knowing how to fix things, uncertain about choices, rushing from one task to the next, not liking our jobs.
And yet, these problems are self-created. Our tricky minds have created them. The problems are in our heads, created by some ideal/fantasy/expectation of how we wished the world would be, or hope it will be but fear it won’t be. It exists in our heads.
Try this, for a minute: let all of that go for a moment, and just pay attention to the physical things around you right now. Your body, the light, sounds, the thing you’re sitting on, the things moving or sitting still around you. Don’t judge them against what they should be, but just observe what they actually are.
See this moment as it is, without all the things you’re worried/frustrated/angry about. Let go of all of those things, and just see this moment.
It is perfect, as it is.
Accept this moment. Cherish it. This is real, and it is wonderful.
You can go back to worrying about everything else in a moment.
Author and Credits: Leo Babauta - Zen habits