Losing sucks. Whether it’s a loss of material goods, a job, dream or a loved one, they all hurt to some degree. What differentiates them, though, is the attachment we choose to assign them. It’s how much we choose to be attached to something and let it affect us.
Life goes on, as long as we’re still breathing. Somehow, down the line, you’ll look back and see that you made it through. So, it’s okay to lose, as long as you don’t lose these following two things:
Self Belief
The belief in yourself is all you have left when everything gets lost. We live our daily lives held to certain standards and expectations. When those aren’t met, we don’t feel sufficient. When this happens, more often than not, our confidence dwindles and we settle into our shells to operate only in our comfort zone.
People choose not to try; they don’t challenge themselves and they don’t venture into new things. The problem is that they don’t believe. They don’t believe that they can do anything interesting; that they can accomplish a new goal and live life on a better wavelength.
When you lose all the material things in the world, you start to feel like it is your fate, and you’re defined by these experiences. In reality, our strengths define us. How we choose to respond to adversity is what illustrates us.Life goes on, as long as we’re still breathing. Somehow, down the line, you’ll look back and see that you made it through. So, it’s okay to lose, as long as you don’t lose these following two things:
Self Belief
The belief in yourself is all you have left when everything gets lost. We live our daily lives held to certain standards and expectations. When those aren’t met, we don’t feel sufficient. When this happens, more often than not, our confidence dwindles and we settle into our shells to operate only in our comfort zone.
People choose not to try; they don’t challenge themselves and they don’t venture into new things. The problem is that they don’t believe. They don’t believe that they can do anything interesting; that they can accomplish a new goal and live life on a better wavelength.
At some point, we start to look for encouragement from others. We expect others to lift us up and make us happy. Again, this is only creating expectations to eventually let yourself down.
Most of the time, people don’t even know what’s going on within us, so it’s silly to expect them to cater to our needs.
Then, we start to take it out on the ones who are closest to us because we think it’s okay (it’s never okay). When you start to feel like you need a boost of confidence and encouragement from outside sources, you’ll likely fall into sadness.
What we need to remember is that failure is not final, and we cannot let ourselves be defined by circumstances. We must believe in ourselves. An unwavering faith in good things to happen and a belief in yourself to continue on is all people need to fight on. As Steve Jobs put it,
You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.
Author and Credits: Sean Holland